Understand the reasons behind your constant need to complain because the more you complain, the more deaf others become.
Why do we complain? A thread.
First, because of the need for attention.
People want to be noticed and they use complaining as a way to “bond” with others.
Second, because complaining removes the responsibility from our shoulders.
Pointing the finger seems easier than assuming responsibility and actually doing something about the things that bother us.
Third, because of pride and competitiveness.
We tend to think that pointing out the things that are wrong with others will show the world how much better we are.
We complain about those who are “less” capable than we are.
Fourth, to exercise power.
People often complain to incite others to abandon an alliance and switch to their point of view, and/or build support and power by focusing on what’s wrong with another’s position.
We manipulate our words to manipulate others.
Fifth, to excuse poor performance.
When something doesn’t go as planned, we start to complain, placing the blame on someone else but never on ourselves.
Complaining is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it will never get you to where you want to go.