Some guiding principles for a good life:
Be in alignment with what’s most important to you (your values).
Do not change because of what others want, change because of what you want.
Be making decisions based on what you really want for yourself.
Don’t be influenced by your fear of the consequences.
Your decisions are meant to empower others, not control them.
Honor people where they are, not where you want them to be.
Make decisions based on who you are and want to be, not who you were.
Fulfil your needs first so you have enough to give to others.
Question fears that you have held onto since childhood.
Your fear, anger, or upset in the moment could be an old emotional trigger and may not have the same meaning as it once did.
When someone triggers you, focus on healing yourself, not changing them.
What you want is just as important as what other people want.
Be compassionate to yourself first, then to others.
You don’t have to wear your emotional armor all the time.
People can hurt you only if you let them take my power.
Do not judge others to avoid what you need to heal in yourself.
Contribute to your own happiness and unhappiness because of the paths you choose and the people you choose to be with.
Understand that you can create unhealthy relationships by seeking in others what’s missing in you.
It is not someone else’s job to make you happy.
Pleasing others is okay, but pleasing others to the point where you feel resentful is not.
Take time to yourself to be with your own thoughts.
Honor your boundaries to let others know what’s acceptable to you and what’s not.
If it doesn’t feel right, it isn’t.
Acknowledge the mistakes you make.
Say ‘No’ when you mean ‘No’, and ‘Yes’ when you mean ‘Yes’.
Choose to be you instead of the person others want you to be.
You are not responsible for others’ reactions or feelings.